I ABSOLUTELY think you should go ahead with your surgery. You need to take care of your health, first! If a month of no sex is enough to destroy your marriage, there's not much of a M there to begin with. I actually think having the surgery in spite of the sitch will show a lot of strength. Your health is important enough to you that you'll make it a priority. And also shows that you're not using sex to manipulate him into sticking around. Postponing the surgery sends the opposite message, in my opinion.
He has no idea that the surgery is scheduled so soon. (in other words, he wouldn't know the difference if I rescheduled.) I don't think that another 6 weeks will affect my health. (After all, when I cancelled the March appt the doc didn't freak out.) I don't think I can stall it indefinitely; that would be playing with fire.
Another reason I am tempted to reschedule-- that night we are going to the big concert (def lep, styx, foreigner) and I could end up very crampy and in pain. I wasn't able to get 'good' parking, so there will be a looooong walk. Not to mention I would like to be able to hop around and scream wildly.
We paid a lot for these tix. I don't want the night ruined. I'm gonna reschedule. I did call and talk to a nurse who 'thought' I would 'probably' be okay to go to the concert; it would so suck if I end up curled up in the car.
Nikki, it must be SOOOO difficult to be intimate with someone if you think they are having an EA. I am starting to have trouble 'letting myself go' because I am feeling angry and hurt about the sitch and there isn't even anyone else in the picture.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
