New to DB, need guidance

[alk24]

Thank you. Funny, it only takes one person to say they feel the same way you do and your feelings seem to be validated for some reason.

[Heimlich]

lol. Too true, Mandy.

Seriously, it is a step from your H that's new and that's what we're supposed to look for.

BD

[alk24]

My heart just leapt when I saw I'd missed a call from him, but I'm reigning my feelings in. Thank you Heim.

[Nomopo]

Hi there!

[alk24]

Anyone know how I can find a solution based therapist in my area?

[not an ex yet]

Hi there. You have been so kind and supportive on my thread, I thought I would stop by and catch up on your sitch.
On your question; from what I have read on other threads, I think it is just a matter of calling different C and asking them. Unfortunately, I don't think there is an easy way to find a SBT. If I am wrong, please let me know b/c I would love to find one myself.
So the last you posted, your H had called to check on you and you were going to wait and see if he called back...any updates? I hope your anniversary went OK also!

[Not Much Left]

Call Michele's office or look on the internet, should be able to locate using that phrase

[alk24]

I did a search but I couldn't find anything. I thought I saw a link here one time. Ugh!

I've had several conversations w/H in which he told me to be patient. I'm still trying to keep my distance. I'm so scared. I'm scared that he just feels sorry for me and doesn't have the heart to say...there's no way I'd ever consider reconciling. He doesn't say anything but be patient with me.

[Heimlich]

Mandy,
My W said a variation of the same thing, except I wasn't listening. Give him space. He's either being honest or he's not (great analysis, that). Either way, giving him the time he's asked for and focusing on yourself (maybe find yourself a pink makeup case ) are what you need to do anyway.

BD

[Not Much Left]

Nothing u can do about HIS feelings. Being scared is not good. Spouse's can smell fear like an animal.