Hi UL, don't worry about the detail, it's all appropriate here! Is this your first child? Sorry I've forgotten, but I remember when W and I had our two, it's difficult. Gosh, if we had sex once in a month it was a good month! Kids are tiring. so it must be very difficult to be piecing back your M while dealing with the stress of a new child. What I find positive here is that you and H seem to be communicating. He's able to tell you some of what he's feeling, that's good. Please let go of that demand you put on yourself to be perfect for him, you aren't perfect and never will be, none of us are. That's a great burden to put on yourself and will create resentment in you towards him. Maybe that's your self growth activity, let go of the perfection fantasy! As for me, W and I are separating by the end of October. I have an apartment that's ready in a week (I won't move in until the papers are signed), the kids have been told and an SA is in the works. I came to the end of my rope, UL. I put it to W to end the A or end our M, so she said bye bye M. We are both trying to end it in as loving a way as possible. It's hard but it's for the best. I put in 3.5 years trying to save it, it's time to move on. Thanks for asking. I'll check in on you again!
