why don't I listen to my own stories?

[Dom R]

hey there...
I would suggest only one thing different from Nikki:
I would say not to completely fill your weekend, but leave some kind of spot open, that would potentially be available, IF he took initiative to want to do something with you.

Maybe even something planned, that is only a "backup plan".
As I've said before, I dont think that "playing hard to get" is good for him.

Funny thing that he doesn't know-- we are about to be forced into a month of celibacy on Monday. I am having a female procedure done Wednesday that will mean no sex for a month and no sex for two days prior to Wednesday.

Well, that doesnt actually mean you are going to be "forced into celebacy". That just means that "traditional sexual intercourse is not possible". But there's a whole lot more to "sex" than that.

I do believe that if we are going to change the dynamic and have a deeper relationship, we are going to have to not rely on sex to be the only avenue to intimacy.

That is certainly a choice for you to make.
However, it may not be the right choice, at this time.
if you decide to go this route... please be explicit to your H about what you are doing. Dont use the surgery as an excuse for it. Because, if you were normally married, any husband would reasonably expect "other favours" from you during that time.

You should expect pressure from your husband about that. If you plan to block him directly to avoid that, saying up front, "Well, i'm going to have this proceedure, and you're not going to get ANYTHING from me during that period"... that may stop him from pressuring you about it. (maybe ) but it will build a whole lot of resentment in him about it. In my opinion, rightfully so.

From his perspective, it would be a test of YOU.
if you took the attitude of, "Well, i'm not getting any, so you arent either!"... that would show you as a selfish spouse.
A month is a long time.

Either way, i hope your health stays good.