Had a busy day at work today but its weekend now and i have the 70's party i have been invited to tomorrow night .
My husband was flirting via text for most of the day today but once again not reading into it. I recieved a letter from the solicitor today explaining that they have sent another letter to my husband because he has failed to send the Divorce document back to the court. They have told me that if he does not reply soon then they will have to send a baliff to serve him personally, i hate the thought of this.
Today i asked my husband whether he recieved the letter, he said he did and that the letter seemed so harsh. He has never once told me through all this that he is confused and so i have no reason to believe he is but i fellt that i had to say something to him before he signed. I said that if there was the smallest chance that he was even slightly confused and unsure, it was ok to say so and that i would not expect him to come running back home straight away. Even though i know it seems stupid of me saying this to my husband when he has never once said he was confused but i just wanted him to know that i would not expect him to coming home if he admitted it.
As it happens he never said anything to admit or deny the fact but i am glad i have said what i said so he knows. He just said that it all seems so final, which in my eyes it is because it is the last chapter of the book, so who knows how it will all end.
hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Had a busy day at work today but its weekend now and i have the 70's party i have been invited to tomorrow night .
My husband was flirting via text for most of the day today but once again not reading into it. I recieved a letter from the solicitor today explaining that they have sent another letter to my husband because he has failed to send the Divorce document back to the court. They have told me that if he does not reply soon then they will have to send a baliff to serve him personally, i hate the thought of this.
Today i asked my husband whether he recieved the letter, he said he did and that the letter seemed so harsh. He has never once told me through all this that he is confused and so i have no reason to believe he is but i fellt that i had to say something to him before he signed. I said that if there was the smallest chance that he was even slightly confused and unsure, it was ok to say so and that i would not expect him to come running back home straight away. Even though i know it seems stupid of me saying this to my husband when he has never once said he was confused but i just wanted him to know that i would not expect him to coming home if he admitted it.
As it happens he never said anything to admit or deny the fact but i am glad i have said what i said so he knows. He just said that it all seems so final, which in my eyes it is because it is the last chapter of the book, so who knows how it will all end.
hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Went to the 70's fancy dress party last night and had a really good time , it was so funny seeing everyone dressed up they all looked great. I must say that i seem to be suffering from the effects of too much alcahol today , i think it will be a quiet night for me tonight lol.
Husband had D3 last night, i had asked him if he could take D3 to one of her Nursery friends birthday parties today, i met them there a little later on, just to say hi to everyone. When i got there i noticed that my husband was sat right in the corner just reading his paper, not socializing with anyone. He said that he did not feel well as he has been full of a head cold for the last couple of days, he really did not look well, so i suggeted that i stay at the party with D3 and he go and get some medicine and get some sleep, which he did. Today he seemed to have the weight of the world on his shoulders, i suppose it could just be down to him not feeling well but my gut says it's a bit more than that. He just does not seem happy, in the ten years i have known my husband i have never seen him this way and it is heart beaking seeing him like this and knowing there is nothing i can do. He never seemed this unhappy when he was here at home with his family, i am sure i would have noticed something.
He had a pair of Black jeans on today, a colour he has never worn before. I made comment about him having some new jeans, he just said that he had bought them for work but because he had nothing else to wear this morning he had to put them on. By this i presume that he meant he had no clean clothes. I always use to do all his washing and made sure he always had clean/ironed clothes in his draw, jeesh i even ironed is underwear lol , but i guess OW does not always do that for him.
Also D3 is not very well tonight, i think that she may be getting the cold that my husband has. I have give her some medicine so hopefully she will have a decent nights sleep. She seems to have cried for my husband alot this afternoon, she really does miss him when he is not here.
Oh and i have no idea why my last past appears 3 times lol , me and computers don't mix very well.
Hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Last edited by nickyf; 09/23/0706:36 PM.
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
I found out today that Ow is presenting D3 as her step daughter, this has really hurt me deeply today. My husband and i went through 4 very emotional years of ivf to get our little girl only to have some OW classing herself has a second mummy to D3. My husband says he had no idea that OW has said this and that he was going to have a word with her.
Sometimes i honestly feel like moving completley away with D3 from all this. It was 13 months ago the other day since my husband left and him and OW just continue to try and play happy families but D3 is my little girl, i carried her for nine months, it was my tummy that my husband was feelimg when D3 would kick, it was my tummy that husband read stories to, so D3 could hear his voice, it was me that husband was with when D3 was born, so why does OW feel she has a right to accociate herself has being any kind of mum to my litle girl.
Like i said this really upset me today which in turn made me wonder whether husband really does give a sh%t or whether he is just quite happy playing happy families with OW.
I just needed to write down what i was feeling, why do these thing happen when its PMT time as well
Hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Thankyou for you reply, yes the knocks do keep coming but i seem to be coping with them better but when it comes to my little girl it just hurts to the core. I found out by someone i work with, it turns out that my husband, D3 and OW were dropping OW's son off at a party and apparently OW said that she couldn't stay because she had her step daughter in the car.
What i would like to know is why my husband could not have been spending some quality time with D3 instead of ferrying OW and her S4 to the party. He does not get to see D3 that much but yet that is how he spends his time with her. He says that D3 is his first priority but some of the time his actions say different. This really hurts because D3 loves her daddy so much and would love for daddy to be home every night tucking her up in bed but my husbands first priority is to go home to OW and her S4.
Despite all this i am still doing quite well, i am doing well with GAL, work is going well and D3 and i love spending time together
Hope your ok
Nicky
Last edited by nickyf; 09/24/0708:26 PM.
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Had quite a bad day today, at my request my husband came to collect the rest of his things which involved tears from both of us. My husband still claims he is not confused, 13 months on, he looked me in the eye today and told me he is sure and that he is happy. He is going to be signing the divorce papers this week and so there is not much else to say.
I am proud of myself for the way i have handled things over these last 13 months but it does not appear to have changed anything with regards to my husbands decision, he is not even waivering slightly. Now i feel like there is nothing left to fight for and so i am just accepting that my marriage is over.
I'm not sure if or how long i will continue to post on this forum, sometimes i think maybe it would be easier to just stop posting, forget it all and get on with my life. I have recieved support from a couple of people who i am grateful to, they have helped me to understands things better.
On a positive note, i forgot to mention that at that 70's party i went to, the young guy who has flirted with me previously, was also flirting with me then as well . According to my sister he was talking about me all night. Good for my PMA .
Hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Last edited by nickyf; 09/25/0705:08 PM.
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Thankyou for your post, its nice to know that i would be missed . I am just going to see how it goes, I will still try and offer advice to people on the board for what its worth lol.
Hope you are both ok
P.S Cinders i would love to come and visit with D3 one day
Nicky
Last edited by nickyf; 09/25/0707:36 PM.
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
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but once again not reading into it. I recieved a letter from the solicitor today explaining that they have sent another letter to my husband because he has failed to send the Divorce document back to the court. They have told me that if he does not reply soon then they will have to send a baliff to serve him personally, i hate the thought of this. 
