I think because I was left to my own devices so much as a kid, I want to be the one who at least shows my kids the opportunities available to them. I don't fix things, but make sure that they know about their choices. I think this is what I was trying to do with my H, but when he didn't take advantage of any of the resources, I got very frustrated. With the kids, they know about different activities they can sign up for, diff opportunities, diff ways of completing homework, etc., but then their choices are up to them, natural consequences.
I can't even do this for H at all, now. Nothing. He doesn't want it.
But at the same time, he took at least 6 relationship books with him when he left, and hasn't returned them when I asked about them. So, who the he!! knows what is in that man's head...
