Yesterday she said we needed to talk about finances and suggested I come over. We were going to put the kids to bed, and go for a run, I assume we were going to talk while running, all seemed good to me.
We had a "back to school night" at the school that we went to together. I went to her house after, helped put the kids to bed, decided she didn't want to run, she poured a glass of wine for both of us and then talked about her job for a while, in detail, said that's why she's grumpy and appologized for not feeling like running. No talk about finances, no talk about the D accept that she had a story that she thought was funny about teasing her about what her new name (old name actually) was going to be. Not relevent, but seems she likes to insert little D references when she can, I think that helps her keep it in perspective.
When I left, she thanked me for the ride home, said thanks for coming over, sorry for not running, have a good night.
This morning, she needed clothes for my oldest, so she called at 7. I took clothes over, helped get the kids ready for school, walked them to school, thanked her for the coffee she made, said have a good day and parted ways. All very friendly, not talk about R or D, just good friends taking care of the children.
I see many similarities with other threads. We seem to be better friends than before the conflict and the decision for the D, probably because we don't discuss difficult day to day stuff anymore, but I'd like to think it's because she's not angry any more. What I also see in a lot of threads is that the nice ex is only nice because she's detached and it's easy to be nice when there is no investment. Hard to tell which is the case. Hard to tell if she still has any moments of regret or attraction to me, or if she is just being as friendly to me as she is to her other platonic friends.
