Jar, sounds like she is going to milk out her anger for all it is worth. It seems as if she does not actually want to be angry with you, but is doing so just to get at you. Don't let her act of anger affect you or get you done. GAL and act as if.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
GG, yep patience is what we all need to have, but is one thing that us guys all struggle with.
As for me. I am here lurking, but, I do not have much to share for others here. I am in limbo right now. Feeling very frustrated as of late and I am caught between my feelings of where I want to go from here. It's hard for me to give good solid insight to others when I am in a cloud of confusion.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
GoodGuy... Keep your hopes up. I can't relate (yet), but I can understand. It's almost like torture!! I was in the Marines for 6 years, and I would much rather spend a year in Boot Camp at Parris Island than go through this!!
Nugget.. I agree. While she says she's angry, she says she will be civil. I think it's her way of saying "I'll be nice, but don't expect anything."
I'm working on the "as-if"
She asked this morning if I'd gotten the proposal from her L. I said I did and that my L was going to verify the numbers. She was very upset by this.. I think she knows that her L tried to screw me and they thought I would just sign the papers without protecting myself. I told her I thought things looked fair (BS!!) but my L wanted to double check everything. She started ranting about what are you wanting to change etc, etc. I just diffused and said my L is checking it out.
It wasn't a good way to end our meet, but there wasn't much I could do.
I texted her afterward to let her know I took care of some horse related stuff she had asked and got no response.
OK... so W came home after work and wanted to work out. I have an office in the basement, so I was in the basement while she was working out. Backup a little to a conversation prior that we had. Her M got her a washer and dryer today (thanks MIL) and so I need to give her the money we agreed to. I told her it would have to be on my next paycheck. Now... she's taking the couch and loveseat with her, and she was even having MIL steamclean them for her, but today she mentions that she wants to check out a local store that has some sales going on. I kept my cool, but I mentioned that I wouldn't be able to cover all of her horse board since I just bought the girls a new bedroom set and paid for some other stuff (ferrier for the horses, her water bill, her security deposit) and here she is going to blow money on NEW couches???
I let it roll, but it will be a conversation that needs to be had. While she was talking about this (she wants me to go with her to pick something out) she mentions again how she's mad as heck but wants to be civil.
She works out and we talk.. actually, I asked how her day was and she talked the whole time and I listened. It was like nothing was going on.. she seemed happy.. laughed etc.
So strange!!
Oh yeah... she did text me today out of the blue to thank me for the lunch I made her.. she said it was good.
LOL. She's talking to you huh? See, she is not as mad as she wants you to think she is.
I would say let her do her thing with the couches. You do not want to be separated, so why support her idea of it by helping her to choose furniture. Maybe you can accompany her, but let her shop. I went with my wife to look at apartments for her to show a little support, but, I refused to go in and look at the actual units. I drove her around for better part of a day, but I politely waited in the lobby or outside with our S. I did not give her my opinion nor did I fight the fact that she was looking. I just listened and validated what she was saying. Went rather well overall. Just a thought.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
This evening has been great.. we've been talking, flirting etc. She is going out tonight and I noticed her doing her "primping" which some things she never does.
I thought it was a little odd that she was in such a good mood, so I had to snoop at her cell.
OM IS AN F'N LIAR!!!!
They are seeing each other tonight and she's as happy as a pig in crap.
She's still here getting ready and I'm trying to avoid her.
I want to basically hand her my ring and tell her to have a good evening with OM.
