Oh, and I meant to say that I don't think you failed by contacting your H about your kid. That seems like a natural thing to do given the situation. But, since you have told him that you won't do that anymore, you've closed that door. So don't do it. I have a good friend here that lets me send her e-mails that I want to send to my W. That way, I can get the crap out of my system, have the satisfaction of hitting send, but I don't have to deal with any of the fall out from W. Try it, it really does work. If you don't have someone there you can send it to, let me know.
