Maybe before you give him any ultimatums you should set up counceling and see if that will help H to be less ambivelant and to make his mind up about OW.

Maybe thru MC everything can be brought to the table and hashed out between you and things mat take a turn in your R.

Does H know how you felt about intamacy when he acted like he did?

Maybe he is the way he is because you both drifted into differant directions and now he thinks it's ok (status quo so to speak).

The bike accident thing brings back memories. My SIL found out her H was having an A that way. She dumped his a$$ on the street and nev[quote][/quote]er looked back(he was abusive).

I would definitaly try to do some 180's (do the oppisite of what you were doing)and see what responce you get.

good luck

JAk

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez