And that IS an incredible post. And it applies to many WAS's here. Including mine to a degree. I've never espoused the 'crazy' or 'alien' terms either..nor the 'they are sick phrase'. They are justifications for the pain we feel and a way to cope with feelings of rejection we are experiencing. I agree with Underdog..whatever happened to our S's....whether it be 'change' or allowing a repressed self to come thru or new psychological issues taking over....they choose NOT to be with us anymore. It is how we cope with this...change and grow...that really is what matters.

Strength and honor.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;