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And I'm pissed at myself for that too. The real emotion is probably fear.

I wish I understood this more to help. If my friend's H does anything (which he probably won't), I'll pass it along.

I'm sure our talks confuse her more than anything else. And you are right I don't have a lot of self-trust, which must be disconcerting to her.

I'm not all that concerned about her confusion or feeling disconcerted. Her issues are just a side effect of an important issue for you - self-trust/self confidence. Focus on yourself right now and "trust" that any progress you make will eventually be reflected by your wife.

A friend of mine is seeing a great therapist who uses Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) and he has been very helpful for her. I saw him twice and wish I could see him regularly too. I mention it because it seems like your issues might be able to be handled with CBT.

Out of curiosity, if you didn't change at all and suddenly your wife started acting "perfectly," would you really feel okay about your marriage? I ask this to point out that you probably want to have self-trust and self confidence for yourself so that's why it's good to focus on getting that first - because it will give you REAL and PERMANENT results and it's something you are in control of. Relying on a wife who has her own issues to help you is probably not the best route to take.