Sorry it has been so long since I have shown my face around here. Life has been so busy for me over the past few months.
I'll give you an update over the past few months. I was doing great GAL and the GF was still living with me. We both pretty much lived our own separate lives. While I never really showed my frustration with the GF, my blood was really beginning to boil over the entire situation.
About three weeks ago, I just about had it. I was finding out more and more information and seeing more and more with my own eyes. I came home one night from the bar (slightly buzzed) and she arrived home from the bar shortly after (completely wasted). I verbally laid into her like I have never done.
I went into her room and said, "You have two weeks." She looked at me puzzled and said, "Two weeks for what?" I replied, "Two weeks to get the &%$@ out of this apartment." I then proceeded to rip her apart. I told her that I was sick of all the crap that had been going on over the last six months. I asked her why the hell she was still living here when she told me six months ago that she was moving out. Yada, yada.....this went on for about three hours and it was not a pretty sight.
I eventually got her to break down and admit that she was still there because she didn't have anywhere else to go and that she still loved me. This finally broke the ice between us and the vicious cycle that we were in. I told her that I was not going to keep going through this and the ball had to start rolling in a direction...either we try to work on us or she needs to leave.
A few days went by and things were actually pretty good between us. About a week later, I told her that if she wanted to she could sleep with me in our bed. She accepted. Since then, we have been sleeping in the same bed.
That pretty much brings me up to today. With both of us being so busy (her going to back to college full-time and working a full-time job), we really haven't had the opportunity to discuss us. It seems the constant text messaging has died down. However, she does receive a text message or two late in the evening (this could be her brother or "the guy friend" since they both live on the west coast and we are on the east). However, I do know that "the guy friend" still does call her....I am just not sure how frequent it is.
I cannot but help to have my insecurities with our relationship. She was so good at lying straight to my face, I cannot help but wonder if the only reason she is still there is because she has nowhere else to live since she is now back in school. While she still refuses to admit that this other guy was anything more than a friend, I know better. I know way more about her then she thinks I do.
I am not sure what to do now. Do I question her late night text messages? Do I tell her that she needs to cut all ties with this "other friend?" Help!
The "funny thing" is that she refers to the past 6-12 months as her quarter-life crisis (since she is 24 years old).
