What are you angry about? How are you going to express it?
Angry at feeling being taken advantage of. I feel like she knows that I won't D her over the lack of affection, and so she dismisses my feelings. I feel like she knows that I won't seriously set a hard boundary on her parents, so she disregards me. I feel like she knows I want to do fun things with her, so she spends all our money on stuff for the kids so that there is no money left for vacations.
And then I feel stupid for thinking such silly things, and it makes me even more angry.
I don't know how to express it.
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What are you entiteled to?
A W that wants to try to make a good M, that cares about us, wants us to be happy together.
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Dont worry about your W getting her shtuff together. Thats her job. Work on yours. Thats a big enuff job to handle. Its not going to wreck your M. Thats why you said...for better or for worse...at least that was why I did.
But the problem is my W is "building reasons" in her head not to be intimate with me as she watches me struggle with myself. I know she won't D me, but I fear a life of "quiet separation" more than I do D.
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An individual, cant wreck a marriage, you can only have people who quit.
Thats one thing I fear, her quitting on us even if I am able to get my sh!t together because she can see my struggles.
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Why dont you let her beat you up when you slip, instead of beating on yourself?
But she won't, not overtly. She will just withdraw.
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You cant implement a boundary if you dont believe you are worthy of it.
Yeah, don't I know it.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
