There and Back, #6

[SallyM]

h just called to say good morning to the kids. I asked briefly if he was okay, he said yes (not believable). the kids talked and we hung up, he called back about a minute later a complete wreck...he was just losing it. he told me as soon as he hears the kids voices lately, he just loses it completely. I did some things good, some thing bad. I offered to help him find a new therapist if that would help, told him I was worried about him, and that he needed to take care of himself. I started thinking after we hung up, and remembered my friend had told me not to try to fix it, and that instead of offering to find the therapist immediately and such, I should have asked him if he thought talking to a therapist would be helpful (instead, I sort of started going into fix-it mode again). I called him back and put it like that...he said no, he's already done the therapy route (ha!, but I didn't say that), doesn't see how it will help. I am going to let him come to that on his own, I re-iterated I was concerned about him and that he needs to take care of himself (my therapist, who I also talked to last night, said that was good to do...I'd do it if he was pysically sick, after all). then I left it, once again, in his hands. he told me he thought he was having a nervous breakdown. there wasn't much more I could say or do. he needs to want to get the help himself, and its not something I can help him with...I can be there if he wants me to, but he needs more than that.