talked to my friend for a while last night and she was pretty proud about how I handled things. for once, I didn't try to fix things, I didn't try to take away his pain, I comforted him and handed it back to him to deal with. He needs to deal with it...his whole life, the women in his life have worked very hard at making sure everything is fine for him. letting him deal with things is a good first step for him. now its up to him where he goes with it.
I know that, but its so painful to see him like this. but I am also proud of myself and again, it just shows how far I've come in my own therapy, that I was able to step back and not try to walk his walk. I didn't even call his mom to give her a heads up (big pattern break, there, friend was happy to hear that one), and I won't call her today to check in.
I really do hope he gets a new therapist, that he is finally honest about the mess his life is in and his role in making it that way. and as much as my heart breaks for him, I also know everyone is right, I need to step back.
as far as I know, he's still off to vegas this weekend. I'm going to have a good time and focus on my kids a bit. speaking of, they are up, so off to get them.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
