Ditto. You are an awesome lady and that just makes him feel worse not better. Reminding him that you love him is too confrontational for him besides he must already know. Just let him know you are there for him, but do not remind him of the love. I know it sounds crazy that we are not allowed to say ILY, but is is true that it forces them to be defiant in the face of love. Like they feel so low that our love for them is stupid. As id theylose respect for anyon ewho wou;d love them when they do not respect themselves. He is realizing that he has thrown his life away for nothing, for something so shallow and meaningless. It is hitting him. Yes, he may still be a good man at his core and maybe he has made wrong choices but remember your DBing! His affair will end eventually if not already but this sounds way bigger than R problems, this is what have I done with my life MLC problems. He is being self destructive. Who else can you talk to? His coworker, his mom, any siblings who are on your side or neutral. Be careful. My H's aunts misconstrued my concerns as betrayals. Be careful. tread lightly and observe.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
