First of all, your H is insane because even at his young age he is in classic MLC. Nothingyou rationalize to him will make any sense in his childish brain, no matter how well yo put it or how smart he was!
Second, I totally thought about you and your H today as I walked my school grounds and noticed the male teachers. There is always such a buzz of gossip and self righteousness at every school I have been to. If one of those old hens got wind of your sitch, they may collectively pound on his ass. But since he is high school, your H may have more atonomy.
Marriage Builders does not say to keep quiet but rather pool supporters who can put pressure on the affair and that may include coworkers that will say he is throwing his life away. He has abandoned his wife and kids. He is throwing his life away and he will regret it and you may need to help him and forgive him.
OW-He says this OW is a friend. Many EA begin as "friends". Who knows what they are up to but we all know it is wrong and innappropriate for married folks to get attached to friends outside of marriage. Their R has crossed boundaries even if they are still considered "friends".
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
