I LOVE living alone

[forever21]

Thanks, HS!!!

You mentioned discussing what led you here. I kinda wonder if it even matters at this point.

I hear ya on this, but I guess it does matter to me and here's why... if it were reversed and I had asked him, I'd really appreciate him discussing it with me. That's part of where I'm coming from. Also, we weren't digging up all the past... we were only referring to the very recent past, and the change of events (last few weeks). It's not surprising that he was caught off guard a little by this, simply because he thought he was playing me again I think.

Not that your feelings about the whole mess don't matter, but is he likely to actually understand?

It doesn't matter so much if he understands or not. It's knowing I did my part. He was the one who wanted to know and asked. I care and respect him and our M enough to talk about it all.

He still blames you. It seems to me that he just won't get it.

I don't feel like he is blaming me at this point. I think I helped put a stop to that for the most part awhile ago, by letting him know that we need to move forward without blame... the past is the past. Sure, there are things that he finds fault with me on in our M, but he doesn't seem to be trying to put the blame on me anymore. I think it's much different to be able to accept responsibility for actually divorcing though. He's taken the blame for our problems many times... I've even reminded him that it wasn't all on him.... but I think it's gonna be hard for him now that there is serious and very public consequences.

But, maybe that conversation is your last little effort to get some realization out of him. I understand that too. I know you'll do what's right for you.

I'm not trying to get realization out of him, but maybe my vent made it look that way. It did give me some ideas I might want to bring up if/when we talk again. Or maybe I don't understand what you mean here.?? But, thanks for having confidence in me. I have learned not to look to him for any of my answers. I do, however, need to know that I'm doing the right thing and if he's interested in talking to me that means something to me.

Thanks, HS!