Just caught up on your thread. Don't know about 2 steps forward and 4 back; seems like the reverse to me.
I think I need to do what you did. Totally just give my W space. Hard thing is, I know that she's talking to the once and hopefully not present/future OM on the phone. DBing says let her go, I'm just not sure if that's going to really work. Anyway, you are doing great. You're pushing a little too much. Give her the space that she wants. She's trying.
From what I read last October/Nov about affairs, it's normal for the other person to grieve the A (as illusionary as that BS relationship is -- sorry, still a little bitter on that score, trying to let it go). It sucks to see and it sucks to know that your W has feelings for another man. She's there with you, you have the tools, you can get through it.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
