He had an affair, and I found evidence and confronted him. He said he didn't want a divorce, so we tried to put the marriage back together. But I was angry and he was blaming me for his affair and trying to get me to see that. So we were having bad times. One day we went out to the country club to have a "nice" talk, and he started again blaming me for his affair. I would have stabbed him with a fork, but there were none on the table. I flew into a rage and screamed at him in public. People on the golf course turned around and looked at us. So we knew we were really bad.
As we were driving home after that we were both silent. Then I said, "I hear there's something called Retrouvaille. It's a marital weekend retreat and it's supposed to help people like us. We should go." If I hadn't said that we would have both contacted lawyers on Monday. So he said, "OK, you look into it." And that was it. I booked us to go as soon as possible. We walked in scared and worried, and they took over. By Saturday night we were stealing away from dinner to go to the room and have sex! I couldn't imagine that it would really work that well. When they asked for a donation at the end, my husband gave more than they asked for. So then I knew that he really did want to stay together.
