Just wanted to swing by for a couple minutes. Sounds like a big conversation, you do sound like you're handling everything pretty well though, given the difficulty of the circumstances and situation.
Towards the end with XW and me when we were having some fairly heavy conversations on the phone (talking about D and why/why not to do it), I too found myself missing key points at times, things I wanted to say but forgot to in the emotion or heat of the moment. So, when I knew I'd be talking with her or knew it was likely that we'd speak, I would literally write down important points that I wanted to make sure I covered, and had my "cheat sheet" readily available so I had it if I needed it. After I started doing that, my personal satisfaction level with how I handled those conversations improved significantly. Maybe that's something that might help you as you proceed with your sitch.
Other than that, keep taking care of yourself, you should be very proud of your efforts.
See ya- Kev
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius
"God alone decides the contest; but we must put our shoulders to the wheel." -Adm. D.G. Farragut
Kevin-38; XW-36 M-2.5, together 4 Bomb-1/6/07; D-6/27/07
