What is reasonable and what is not?

[cpolk]

SO2,
Glad that at least the visible stuff is helping you feel better.

'Act as if' or not? Hmm, that's a good one. My perspective is when he's ready to be with YOU then let him. I only say that as that's what worked for me; I'm just not willing to compete for what should be monogomous anyway. My W had appropriate space; then she had the freedom to choose OM and an EA over the phone (the fantasy) or me (some pain and a lot of work healing (the real world)).

Not being overly religious myself I've found some sanity just praying by myself. Driving down the road, quiet moment at work, wherever I needed to take a minute. I feel like it helped. Oddly enough some stuff here and there happened that I never would've expected (good stuff). They say you have to have an image in your mind about what you want before you start a major project (my R) and so far things are moving in the right direction. My plan, some devine intervention, I don't know; but I'm not complaining.