Oh... and the girls usually see that guy as some sort of great 'challenge.' (We're so stupid sometimes). Maybe, Mo, that is why you always get booty calls from your prior dating partners... that's the way you went into the R... so for them to give you a booty call is fitting the M.O. you gave them from the get go...
I hope you know that I wasn't trying to dis you with what I posted earlier. You know I think you're super-fantastic, right? It's just that I was feeling kind of frustrated because to me it seems like (although you might not mean it that way at all) I'm your friend with DD boobs and you are telling me that if I go buy some sort of special reducing bra, I'll be able to look classier in certain kinds of clothing and you are giving me this advice from the kindness of your heart. All I'm trying to say is that I just want to be the natural me and if that doesn't look "classy" I'm okay with that. I actually truly enjoy "slumming" on occasion. Although, I have to tell you it really hasn't been my experience that I choose between having "just sex" or "emotionally-connected sex in a committed relationship". There are a hundred million possible variations in between those two poles. I can have friendly sex with a friend or seriously fun sex with a sweet-talking joker or a sizzling summer romance or a semi-kinky flirtation with a co-worker etc. etc. If you consider the basic components that might vary to be level of excitement, level of affection and level of commitment or desire for commitment and you throw in the world of possibilities for differing contexts and personalities, it's clear that trying to neatly sort or value these experiences can lead to a sort of emotional dishonesty. The truth is much more complicated.
I think the reason why I frequently get booty call is the reason why many women get booty call- men are frequently horny, drunk and stupid all at the same time.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
