I'm developing a theory that a HD/LD discrepancy has mostly to do with how comfortable the man is with his sexuality and sex in general. A sexually comfortable man with a sexually uncomfortable woman will probably be able to turn the ship around in a month, tops, if he is really sexually comfortable. On the other hand, a sexually uncomfortable man with a sexually comfortable woman will either turn LD himself (see LFL's husband) or turn her LD.
This makes a lot of sense to me. A lot. I think I've been starting to get a sense of this from my reading and pondering and confronting of my sexuality. What I used to think about sex, HD/LD, relationships, etc. has been turned upside down. Things just don't look the same to me anymore. Clearly another case of not being able to see something until you can see it.
Yep. I think most people are HD/LD within the dynamics of their own particular relationship. Sure some are going to have an instrinsic higher drive than others, but most of the mismatch comes from the dynamics of who you're with. The LD usually gets the lable as "the one with the problem" (or sometimes the HD does ) but it's really both, and neither.
