Am I piecing yet #2

[Have Faith]

Trying

I know where you are coming from as it relates to the bf. I have told him that we are just friends going places together. I have told him that it is not physical. He believes me, as he knows that isn't how I operate. He has said, at least I don't have to work about you having sex with him, as I know you wouldn't do that.

At this point, he seems to be pulling closer and closer to me. Since bf came into the picture, I have been hearing ILY. Didn't hear that b/4 bf. I don't think he sees it as permission to be with OW. He knows that I'm willing to take him back and work on the marriage the minute OW is out of the picture. At this point he only sees it as competition for my time and the possibility of lossing me.

No, no sex yet. However he is very physical. Holds me and touches me more then he ever has. Crazy as I may be, I still don't think that this is a PA. Up until I stopped snooping (a couple of months ago) all e-mails would indicate that it hadn't been. Also, in the past, he thought as long as you were not having sex, then it wasn't cheating. He could rationalize his relationship that way and not feel guilty about it. This is not the first time I have caught him doing something like this. Only the other time, (10 years ago) he hadn't stepped over the line this far. I chose to sweep it under the rug, thinking it wouldn't happen again. Shame on me.

Maybe because of where we are in a possible reconciliation, the bf seems to be working and not backfiring. Had I done it 3 months ago, I think it might have backfired then.

But I see where you are coming from and I do have to be careful. Thanks for your post

Faith