I live on the Norhtern part of Florida but still you wold think Florida racist?? YEP!! My poor mom gets the runt of it cuz she has a heavy accent whereas I dont have an accent at all.
UGH! I am so pist right now!!! H just IM me regarding tonight and he expects me to have dinner (which we are meeting by 6) AND he wants me back home by 8!! I told him to give mean extra half hour leeway and he said no. I told him I know your wife (yeah I call her his wife now) will be blowing your phone up by 830 and your bike night w/ her is more important. He said he will be traveling for the next three weeks and wants to see the kids. I said well if you really want to spend time w/ them you would want the extra half an hour? He told me to f*** off and stop giving *HIM* [censored]!!!!! WTH!! I said nevermind I will make other arrangements. As always cant count on him for [censored]!!!!
MMH, sure I would let a guy do a shot from my cleavage if he wanted to.
No H does not have an amish attitude, quite the opposite. That was his way of paying me a compliment because he doesn't know how to say anything that does not refer back to a sexual tone. He always asks my friends to show me your t!ts. I work with all guys in my group and we were having a business meeting in Denver. I told him about it and said good thing you are not the jealous type and he asked me if I was going to do them all when I was out there. Our D6 had a skirt on going to kindergarten last year and the ends were rolled up some and H made a comment about it then said little slut. OMG what father even jokingly says that about a D5?
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
chicki, yeah I would be extremely po'd to if I were you. He only gets them every other weekend and now he is putting demands on you of when you have to be home. That is BS.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
Love how you call OW his wife. If she calls like that obviously she is insecure (and should be, look how they hooked up) Hope he wakes up and figures out what a dope he has been. Too bad they don't make a pill for that? It would be the marital prozac.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
H just IM me (off line b/c I signed off & now how to get back on):
H- you are not keeping the kids from me tonight M- you get to see them only how often and now you want to make demands on me? H- our deal was until 8 that is all i am asking M- all i am asking is 30 minutes H- where are u you going? M- like I told you josh(my boss) is taking us all out - why you dont tell me where you guys go to or ot what concert you take her too H- oh so your going w/ you BF not w/ your work crew I tell you when I go somewhere w/ my coworkers M- just like you told me cayman islands was business H- anyways M- I will never look at another island vacation the same H- blah H- I will be taking the girls to PR for xmas so there is another island vacation M- so your showing off your new wife to your family? H- I have to go work just be on time have fun w/ your dinner date w your bf-josh
You're BOTH contributing to this negative interaction. Also, calling the OW his wife is NOT DBing. You need to "act as if" and show him detachment. Quit showing him that you're so bothered by this OW sitch. IMHO, men gain much more desire to come back when they truly see and believe their LBW's are detached. Yes, H is being an ass, but what else is new? Quit allowing him to bring you down to his level and delivering low blows. Nothing will change as long as this dynamic continues, and if he does come back, your communication will still not be positive. Their will be resentment, jealousy, etc, because these issues haven't been constructively dealt with.
I can't remember, but have you read DR? If so, I think that you might benefit from reviewing it. I hate to see so much negativity and overt head games in your sitch, and esp coming from both of you. Please take this to heart -- I only wish the best for you.
GD - completely agreed. Chicki, I hope you can get back on track and FAST for your sake, and for the sake of your kids.
Last edited by NikkiB; 09/20/0709:08 PM.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
chicki, I dont get those kinds of accusations anymore. I used to a long time ago but dont bring up the past. You should have told the turd that you dont anytime to waste with answering stupid questions. You have been invited out and he can atleast wait 30 mins its not like you are going to an all night orgy. What a arrogant bastardo!
chicki, No more rebuttals. Do you see how my sitch has turned around in a matter of days now. Hmmm interesting.
See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...
In Gods eyes and in the Bible it states H is living as man and wife. I am only stating the hard truth.
You know in all honestly OW does not bother or come in mind like before. Most days I dont even think about her. But yes H did infuriate me b/c at the last minute I was searching for a sitter b/c of his irresponsibility. And I have read some of your old posts you have your days aslo. Beleive me I dont lose sleep over them or H anymore and I have definatley gotten my appetite back.
I am really enjoying this singleness and so much that the last time H truly wanted to return *I* told him not too that it was too soon. Yes I have days of loniliness but they are getting few as time goes on.
I enjoyed my evening out w/ the coworkers. This was very nice of my boss.
I had a reavealing top on and I noticed H checking me out!
