You're BOTH contributing to this negative interaction. Also, calling the OW his wife is NOT DBing. You need to "act as if" and show him detachment. Quit showing him that you're so bothered by this OW sitch. IMHO, men gain much more desire to come back when they truly see and believe their LBW's are detached. Yes, H is being an ass, but what else is new? Quit allowing him to bring you down to his level and delivering low blows. Nothing will change as long as this dynamic continues, and if he does come back, your communication will still not be positive. Their will be resentment, jealousy, etc, because these issues haven't been constructively dealt with.
I can't remember, but have you read DR? If so, I think that you might benefit from reviewing it. I hate to see so much negativity and overt head games in your sitch, and esp coming from both of you. Please take this to heart -- I only wish the best for you.
