In actuality it did not seem to me that these women were worried too much about whether you were judging Mojo.
It seemed to me worry over my judgment of Mojo and other men’s judgment of her got all mixed together.
They were more interested in the fact that A) you think that the men that Mojo would be attracted to and interested in would judge Mojo negatively according to how sexual she is
So why do they care what I think? What I said was what I think occurs from the male POV.
(Quite frankly I think that if one of these guys did turn out to be a man who rejected her for being too sexual, Mojo would probably think "Thank goodness I found out NOW")
And that would be a good thing.
B) that you seem so concerned about what your Mama (or friends apparently) would think about the woman YOU are dating or marrying,
In know you women think it is ridiculous for a man to listen to his mother when it concerns other women, but that is because you women are the “other women.” Think about how you will feel when your son is getting serious with a woman who you think is a floozie. Should he pay any attention to your concerns? Whether you like it or not, the fact is that men DO listen to what their parents say, just as women do, at that includes mama.
C) Mrs. Cobra understands your opinions well enough to do what it takes to gain your respect – because if she was hungry and easy for sex from you, you would view her negatively.
Nope, as long as her hunger was for me. If she hungered for lots of other men I would consider her a slut. But she doesn’t, so that’s not a concern.
i.e. Mojo's response: "If I was married to Cobra and I wanted respect from him more than anything else I would behave like MrsCobra." I didn't see you really address those points.
If she withheld sex from me, as my wife has done in the past, she would quickly lose my respect on be on my sh*t list. If she wanted my respect, she would be understanding of my needs as I would try to be understanding of hers. Mojo’s perception is way off base.
My question to you was going to be why you (and men who choose women like you choose women) would be surprised to find yourself in an SSM marriage since you are passing over women who are actually hungry for and easy for sex FROM YOU in favor of women who withhold sex FROM YOU!! I think plenty of men get cuckolded by their supposed virginal and chaste wives.
This is an absurd question, even from you. If I knew twenty years ago what I know now, I wouldn’t be here. If I did not have kids, your question would have some merit. But as my situation is now, it doesn’t.
Additionally I know I wouldn't be interested in a boy who looks for his mama's or friends' approval or permission to date me.
Of course not. I know this. Wives and girlfriends are a threat to mothers. The man has to make a decision at some point about whose side he is on. But that doesn’t mean he throws out the values he learned from his parents.
Rather I'd look for a man who respects his mama but does not let her control him either… I mean would we have to run all our major decisions by her first??? And the same for his friends. Does he need their approval or is he looking to "keep up with the Jones'?", again not my cup of tea.
Did I say a man should take such an extremist position and run everything past his mother? I said a man still hears his mothers voice concerning morals and values. You are sensationalizing.
I definitely GET Mojo's lack of interest in the stereotypical WASP life style. Nothing I've ever been interested in either. I like farmers (many are independent and have a bit of a rebellious streak – Read Wendell Berry for some great descriptions) but not too many of them left. Basically this ties into the "theme" of boys who follow the proposed rules out there versus men that make their own rules. I tend to think of WASP types as being more likely to follow the rules that Cobra mentions because they want to fit in. Even buying Harleys like he mentioned earlier falls into the poser category for some executive types (NOT ALL but some). They sort of want to appear like a rebel but only in an acceptable way.
Ok, if that’s how you want to see it. I tend to think of some (not all) farmers as losers who can’t cut it in college or a competitive workplace, so instead they hop on a tractor and plow, then use the patriotic excuse of a love for the land, having an independent and rebellious spirit against authority which is part of the founding values of this country, yada, yada, yada.
Now, did I answer all your questions? How about you answer some of mine?
