It sounds to me like you and your H are on the right track with radical honesty. I just googled it because I didn't know what it was, and now I'm intrigued.
I hope it brings your R to a new and better place.
I'm still chewing on what you said about needing to have things stirred up to feel HD. There may be some truth to that for me, too. Have to ponder that some more.
