WAW,
that is good that your father did come around and have a strong bond now.

I think H's whole attitude with our kids is why I am so ready to forget about working things out with H. If he doesn't want to be in his kids lives more then what could there be between me and him? I don't want to get back together with him only to be going thru this again in another 6-10 years. Like you said if your kids aren't important enough to you then nothing is worth fighting for and that makes for a very shallow person.

Sometimes fathers do wake up when their kids are teenagers and if H is like that and the kids tell him to effe on when they are older then I will stand behind them all the way.

Last edited by Kelley; 09/20/07 07:44 PM.
Me: 41
H: 39
D: 6
S: 4
M-14 T-16
first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.)
second bomb: 6-4-2007
(found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything)
Kelley