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[Have Faith]

No. There are stages in reconciliation and you can't jump from the 1st stage to the last one without going through the middle. The middle if the friendship stage. I think you need to get to that stage and stay in it for awhile. Remember all relationships start out as friendships. I think you and your W have forgotten how to be each others friends. I know me and my H did. We are now friends again and this is building to what I hope to be a wonderful, beautiful and lasting marriage. I will never take our friendship for granted again.

Learn from each stage of your recovery and remember you have to be patient. You can not push it along. Each time you try to, you will find that for the two steps you have taken forward, you have now taken one back. I found this out after trying to speed up the process.

Now is the time for you. You need to focus on who you want to be and becoming that person.

Good Luck Going. I know how it hurts and really it does get better. I believe that God is growing us in our faith and asking us to trust in him. We grow from our trials and he is teaching us now. Learn from this experience.

Faith