Yeah... it can be stunning... but that is good, cuz it sometimes saves you from saying something stupid in the midst of your shock.
Major giggles.
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Lots of times, truth doesn't come spilling out until you are angry or hurt... and then it spills out, sometimes, in very hurtful ways. My personal goal is to avoid that... the other way is much, much, much more thrilling and challenging to me.
Right now I find that the hurt feelings inside come out as porcupine spines. I told H this, so that he would understand some of my less than stellar moments come from a place of pain. He told me the porcuipine spines won't push him away, and then wanted to show me his,hee hee.
I think this must be the comfortable familiarity you're talking about when you go down the rad. honesty road.
I like the whole concept so far. It appeals to my emotional nature and the need to analyze my feelings. And after all the secrets and shame, I'm betting my H wants to get real too. I've often tried to help him identify emotions, but he's the master at avoiding and deflecting. I hope this is the start of both of us opening up.
