I'm sorry that you are going through this. It's hard to face, even when we think we are ready for it. However, in my case, the dreading was far worse that the actual D.
My D was settled five minutes before we were scheduled to go to trial. I was the one pushing for trial and was fully prepared to see it through. However, on the day of the court hearing, my attorney informed me that the trial could take months (not to mention $$$) before it would be final.
At the last minute, I chose to accept H's settlement offer instead of going to trial. Hindsight, it was the right decision.
Your H knows he is in the wrong. I doubt seriously that he wants his sins aired in a court of law (not to mention the length of time and $$ if it goes to trial).
As an aside -- since our D, H has been calling regularly and acting more like the old H. The arrogance is gone. I must say that I'm happier than I've been in a long time and actually enjoy talking to H again. I never thought I would say that.
So who knows what silver linings are in your future, Always? I just know that you will find many.
