Do not mention a D if that is not something that you want.
AN2M is right. DO mention the finances, as you have the right to know where you stand there.
Please try to be pleasant not angry but be very to the point. Do not let him sweet talk you. I think they told you here about cake-eating, it sounds like that is what H is doing. And by all means don't let H get you into bed.
I have read thru this thread and I see that you have come a long way in a short time. You are doing well.
Continue to work on you, and show H that you can live without him as you have indicated to us here. You want him but you don't need him. He can't have it both ways.
Set your boundries and stick to them.
Even though it is hard there are positives but, it desn't mean that it will be over any time soon.
You have stated that you see so many M's that don't work out. Well I have seen so many that have they are there, also those are the ones that keep you going and keep your PMA up. This MLC is a long proccess.
Be positive and your attitude will make a differance if not in H it will in you. you and your well being are what matters most(and kids). You can only control you. You can not control H, he needs to figure himself out.
Good luck with the conversation, remember be calm when talking to H do not appear clingy or needy.
Also if it were me i would not contact unless it was an emergency.
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 09/20/0706:24 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
