What a donkey. I am sorry. As difficult as my H has been with me he will fight tooth and nail to be in our D's life at least 50%. I respect him for that. Even though I worry everyday that he will fight me for more than 50%.
Sounds like most of the gals on here are dealing with some of the same crap. But ironically most of the Dad's on here seem pretty hands on. I know if I ever got involved down the road with a guy who didn't want to take a big part of his kids lives I probably wouldn't keep him around long. I really don't have much respect for men or women for that matter that don't make their children top priority. OW/OM will come in go, you will always be a parent.
Sorry for the semi-rant. I grew up with a Dad who forgot I existed from 11 to 19. Woke up and realized he missed out on all sorts of things and then wanted to be a full time hands of father. Kind of tough at that point. But its been 10 years and he really has become a good Dad now. No complaints. He has paid his dues for that and has really been a rock for me in the last months.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.