I'm developing a theory that a HD/LD discrepancy has mostly to do with how comfortable the man is with his sexuality and sex in general. A sexually comfortable man with a sexually uncomfortable woman will probably be able to turn the ship around in a month, tops, if he is really sexually comfortable. On the other hand, a sexually uncomfortable man with a sexually comfortable woman will either turn LD himself (see LFL's husband) or turn her LD.
I'm still developing my theory. Stay tuned.
There is a lot to this, as well as the whole double standard issue.
I addressed it with my daughter when she was about twelve as it became apparent that she had a high sex drive, by first teaching her that sex was completely normal and natural, then by encouraging her to wait if she could and try to find a like minded guy (she did). I told her that once she was married, to do anything and everything, anywhere they wanted to (short of being arrested). They now have what I consider a very healthy sex life. We also openly talk about it when warranted. So we basically avoided the double standard altogether. Their experience is with each other, but very open and honest. I think their relationship has an excellent chance at longevity without serious complications.
They talk openly about basic marital issues as well.
I don't have much of an issue with sexual history in my mate (MrsNOP). My interest is exclusivity within the relationship. I think you will find that while I may be a minority, I am certainly not alone in that philosophy.
If there was no relationship, then exclusivity doesn't matter to me at all.
Just my $0.50 worth.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
