I'm developing a theory that a HD/LD discrepancy has mostly to do with how comfortable the man is with his sexuality and sex in general. A sexually comfortable man with a sexually uncomfortable woman will probably be able to turn the ship around in a month, tops, if he is really sexually comfortable. On the other hand, a sexually uncomfortable man with a sexually comfortable woman will either turn LD himself (see LFL's husband) or turn her LD.
This makes a lot of sense to me. A lot. I think I've been starting to get a sense of this from my reading and pondering and confronting of my sexuality. What I used to think about sex, HD/LD, relationships, etc. has been turned upside down. Things just don't look the same to me anymore. Clearly another case of not being able to see something until you can see it.
That is exceedingly confusing to women... especially women who have had no or little sexual experience prior to being married. (What... I was supposed to 'save' myself, not act like a slut in order to attract a good man for a H... I do, and I get married... and now I'm supposed to embrace sex and act like a slut with my H now that I am no longer on the market? HUH?!!!)
Fcked me up, at least.
I'm nodding my head vigorously at this.
So very many thoughts on this thread and on the board are resonating loudly with me. Now I just need to sort it out and figure out what to do with it.
