I know you and Mojo are who you are and that neither of you should change. The highly tuned males on this board may not be the ones you run into in daily life. So you find the one in real life who has the whole package of evolved empathy, sexual confidence, differentiation, whatever, and everything will be hunky dory... if you can find such a critter.
Ah... now there is the rub.
And no, I shouldn't change at all. Unless I WANT to. And then there is no 'should' to it.
But it isn't like I'm some magical, mystical person. And it isn't like I don't have my whazzed out moments... that I don't find an expectation or two or three hiding below the surface. That I don't fck up. (Uhmm... heellllooooo)
I'm not worried about **finding** that man you just described. (Not because I think my bf is or isn't one, either). I'm being me, and staying as clear and as honest about being me as I can. That's MY objective.
