Jak, I think you should present everything you posted yesterday--how you want the positive things he used to do to return, how you would like him to work less, so there is more time for connection, and how you would like him to talk more with you. He needs to hear all this.
Have a plan in place in case you get some defensiveness. Try to validate how hard it is to change, but be firm that these are important to you.
I think you'll choose your words carefully, and will be respectful. My concern is that you will "walk on eggshells" and not say what's important to you.
I'm proud of you for pursuing this, and taking the R to a higher level of connection.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
