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[Have Faith]

Going

This is good news. Let her make up her own mind. Don't pressure her either way. Believe me, if she does move out, it won't be as bad as you think. The WAS misses their home, family and routine. If she sees more of the OM, she will begin to see things she doesn't like. Especially if you have children to deal with. It is so much healthier for you too. You won't worry about where she is everytime she is gone. You won't have to see those panties. I know as I experienced the same thing with my H. It really hurts, but you do start to heal during this time and you become less desparate. When she does see you, you will be up beat. Cry, rant and rave after she leaves. Show her you can get along without her.

We all do understand where you are and how you feel. My bomb was dropped 1/07. He is now telling me he loves me and thinks he wants me and his old life back. DBing really does work, especially if you can begin doing it shortly after your bomb has been dropped.

If you haven't read the book, get it now and read it as quickly as you can and keep posting. There are so many wonderful people here that know exactly how you feel.

Faith