Yes, OW here is tiny (looks like she never had 2 babies, grrrr) but I don't think her face is very pretty. But like you said, she puts herself together and apparently loves to go out and party, while I feel the need to be with my kids. A long time ago, my H even commented on how she isn't all that. Guess she was something more than all that, huh?
NoCode, she is trying to avoid her feelings by avoiding physical contact with you. Denial in its finest.