I know morgan! I am on the next flight with you. Don't you think sometimes "What are these wives thinking???? We are dying for our H's to do what these H's are doing!"
The OM in my own sitch is what I would describe as a cross between Junior Samples and Buddha. While I have been as much as 40 pounds overweight at my worst, I have never let myself go that far, and now that I am another 25 pounds lighter and working out regularly, I am now an extreme contrast to OM. (I really don't know what W sees in him, but obviously he gives her the emotional reassurance she craves.)
Anyway, about a month ago as I was leaving the house, W gave me a good hug, and while she tried to be nonchalant I think it surprised her just how firm and trim I now am. (I know I got a bit of charge out of it too since the hug was a bit unexpected.)
In a way it's sort of funny (and in another its not), but it may not surprise you to know that ever since then she has avoided physical contact with me like the plague. When she's shown up for Church, she always sits as far from me as she can, and always makes sure the 2 S's or something is between us. And anytime we are in each other presence she stays well beyond arms reach if she can help it.
It's childish of her, but its like she sees me as being some temptation she must resist. I try to treat it like its water off a duck's back.
yep, h has been tempted by me lately. and there is a part of me that wants to get down to where I used to be pre-baby days (not quite there yet) and look HOT just to show him what he's missing.
unfortunately, ow isn't heinous. I don't think she's very pretty, just think she knows how to put herself together well. men, on the other hand, tend to think she's stunning. she's 5'8", long legs, long blonde (fake) hair, can hold her guinness. what's not to love? (other than the fact that she's a husband stealing whore, of course).
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Yes, OW here is tiny (looks like she never had 2 babies, grrrr) but I don't think her face is very pretty. But like you said, she puts herself together and apparently loves to go out and party, while I feel the need to be with my kids. A long time ago, my H even commented on how she isn't all that. Guess she was something more than all that, huh?
NoCode, she is trying to avoid her feelings by avoiding physical contact with you. Denial in its finest.
hot body, confident, loyal, and loves his kid? nice. then he had to throw the rugby in? hell yeah, I'm pricing airfare.
Don't forget the Australian accent. You better watch out Andy, you might have a couple American women show up on your doorstep.
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Don't you think sometimes "What are these wives thinking???? We are dying for our H's to do what these H's are doing!"
Everyday! I would have been happy with an ounce of what these guys are doing.
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NoCode, she is trying to avoid her feelings by avoiding physical contact with you. Denial in its finest.
My XH was to the point that he was avoiding me like the plague. He could not face throwing away his great horse farm let alone his hot wife, so he just refused to be around either one. If he would have thrown just one of them away, people would have thought he was nuts...he's proving to everyone that is downright insane.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Hope, It's to bad you couldn't have had your H committed for insanity prior to the divorce. We all would have certainly vouched for ya'. He's loony alright.
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