You women are toooo funny!! Talk about stirring up a hornet’s nest… it’s always interesting to me how women will say they are independent thinkers and doers, don’t need a man telling them what to think, how to act, etc. and yet when I put up one judgmental male POV, look at the responses!
If you all will read a little closer into what I was saying you will see that I am not judging Mojo at all. If she wants to hump the whole army that’s fine with me. What I was saying is that if she is concerned with her self image, and because IMO she gets some of that image from her interaction with men, then she might think about how men feel regarding women who sleep around.
NG may want to be with Mojo, even if he knows all her sexual past. But throw in an extra 20 or 30 studs and he might feel differently. I’m pretty sure his mama will feel differently too. And before everyone jumps on that statement, take a reality check and know that no matter how much a man thinks he is independent of his mother, her voice about these types of morality issues, still plays in his head. Doesn’t matter what you think of that, that’s just the way it is. Furthermore, if he doesn’t hear it from his mother’s voice, he will hear it from his male friends.
What I was pointing out to Mojo is the double standard that men use to judge women. I’m not defending it, saying it is right or wrong, but that’s the way it is, and I adhere to it too. Now if Mojo doesn’t give a rat’s ass what I think, there’s no problem, is there?
Cobra, Cobra. *shakes head* I'm trying to have a spirited debate with you and you start talking about your mother. The Freudians would have a field day with you. *grin*
Seriously, I get what you're saying: you realize it's a double standard, that it's probably nonsense, but you have it anyways. Fair enough. But please do understand that a woman will pick up on the vibe that you want her to want sex, but not too much, and preferably less than you. A lot of women will be tempted to err on the side of caution.
I'm developing a theory that a HD/LD discrepancy has mostly to do with how comfortable the man is with his sexuality and sex in general. A sexually comfortable man with a sexually uncomfortable woman will probably be able to turn the ship around in a month, tops, if he is really sexually comfortable. On the other hand, a sexually uncomfortable man with a sexually comfortable woman will either turn LD himself (see LFL's husband) or turn her LD.
