I think you hit it exactly on the head, you stirred up some feelings she either didn't realize she had or thought she had sufficiently burried. I don't know what to do about this, I'm going through the same thing right now. I can tell you that in my case it's actually swung pretty far to the negative in terms of her desire for D. Now she's using the D as a punchline which I find pretty insulting. Hopefully it doesn't go that far for you but I think this little backlash you're seeing is normal and something you can ride through.
