Now what? Wait it out?

[Tara_9]

As OK as I was feeling last night, everything is bad again today. I woke up with knots in my stomach, wanting to refute everything she said in her letter--from her saying that she and the OP have found true happiness after a few weeks ("once you're happy, everything falls into place" and "true happiness comes from within"--that last one is true, but she went straight from our relationship to the next without a breath between and says the OP makes her happy. How is that from within?), to her saying now that hasn't been happy for 4+ years. I was there. I know that isn't true, I saw her, heard her, felt her and I know in my soul that she is rewriting history. Should I not call her on it? If I don't give her a reality check, who will? The therapist had told her if she really wanted independence she 100% had to do it alone. No distractions with bright shiny objects. The therapist says this affair will be short lived, but they both seem so caught up in it. My partner very "generously" offered that she and the OP would not show up at the same events as me until I am "ready". I don't know many things for sure, but I do know I will not ever be able to stomach that sight. I cannot stand that it's all of a sudden "them against me", when we were always in each other's corner. Why do I have to live in the pain of reality while she and the OP get to live in a fantasy camp? My partner is spending the days not working or working very little at the place where she is officially staying, and is spending her nights at the OP's, where she is spending what little money she has on the OP and gas to get all the way there, when she owes me and everyone else money. Why does she get to live this fantasy? She says she is broke, but happy, and is now advising everyone to go for their dreams and "put it out there" (thanks to her interpretation of "The Secret": she put it out there that she wanted passion, and the OP showed up or the OP showed up and then she put it out there, whichever came first), and their happiness will come from within. When will she wake up? How will she if someone doesn't shake her awake?