Thanks for your kind words. It's funny how we get our second wind all of a sudden.
I found that when W and I were happily married, and when she was infactuated with me, was when I was confident and happy. She would always get angry if another female even looked at me the wrong way when we went out.
So I guess my best plan of attack, was not only to get my own affairs in order (making myself a better person for me), but I started hitting the gym really hard. Started back in Nov last year. I would always "vent" at the gym, by pushing myself and hitting the weights, which really worked.
You have an advantage over me in regards to your W's OM, saying he is short and bald. My W's OM is nearly 10 years younger and is a kick boxing instructor............but not good looking (thats what my SIL keeps telling me). I suppose he is a lot shorter than me too (but I am 6'3" and he is a little taller than my W who is 5'6")
But def try not to ever get baited again, and walk away from any conflict that is not serious enough to warrant action (unless it concerns children). The no dating is something that I have learnt can lead to trouble. Still GAL and go out with friends all you want, I have even stayed over mates homes after a big night (W does not know who I am with).
The funny thing is, she is soooo trying to avoid me, by staying with her friend, that she is making it pretty obvious that she has a hard time being with me emotionally. Early on in my sitch, she was indifferent, and would not be so reclusive. Now, with my 180 and GALing she appears to "confused" when she is around me. Out of sight out of mind.
