muddled and angry: Puddle's sencond thread

[Heimlich]

Puddle,

Still intend to read through your sitch to get a grip on your slippery H, but did have one or two thoughts (I'll be brief, maybe).

You described your H as a rational relativist (or something close). Is there any way to logically explain your emotions to him so that he sees change as possible? I mean, explain yourself in logical terms (be Spock). It was interesting that he got why you thought there was hope in your M pretty quickly once you set it out in a way that he could grasp.

Also, good job on opening up more emotionally. You're in a weired sitch in that he wants to talk. It seems like his A was driven by emotion, not physical intimacy, maybe he was looking for that emotional connection he wasn't getting from you?

You had a great line about opening up emotionally and not living in fear and that you might get hurt opening up, but you will get just as hurt by staying closed off. I feel the same way. Better to live with an open heart than a closed one.

BD