Well, she had my attention before but now she's peaked my interest. She proceedes with I'm not really interested in any kissy stuff or oral anything just to have sex.
As much as I can't believe I'm about to type this I'm thinking it none the less. She initiates hardly any touching; hasn't kissed me on the lips in weeks, and no ILY in longer. How can she want to 'go all the way' on so very little. There would appear to be a vast difference in what 'sex' means right now to her than what it means to me. To me with the magnitude of this project we are working on (our R) I'm not sure I want to just have sex. I want it to mean something.
I want her right now probably more than ever before but I almost fell like I may be being test driven or something. Being a male I'll probably do it; I just hope it turns into something more than just a f*ck!
If I had the offer at this point, I'd have a hard time turning it down. Especially if it was spontaneous. Planning a time for sex with no intimacy though... I think I might have to tell her I'd rather wait. You and me both have been waiting an awful long time right? You might want to let her know that you don't want maintenance sex when your trying to repair the R. It might be healthy sometimes in a working R, but I think it would be counterproductive in the current situation. I can remember times that I would really feel lousy after the act when I realized she hadn't really been into it. Doing this with the current situation would just magnify those feelings. Those few minutes would feel great, but think about your emotional state afterwards. What just happened? What did that mean? etc, etc.
Let her know that you would love to take her up on her offer, but you can wait a little while longer. Let her know that its more than just the sex.
