Got home from work and gym at 6pm. W and DD had gone late night shopping, getting home around 7.30pm.
W did ask if I wanted DD to stay at home tonight, whilst W spends another night at her friends house (friend is 24, mother is out of town for 2 weeks and she has invited W to stay, W is 36, best friends, go figure). I thought this was a nice thing to do, but seeing I have to work at 1am till 9am I told her it would be okay to take DD.
DD bought me a mouse mat, and a bookmark, just because she wanted to. Unconditional love, its fantastic
Told her that I would spend the whole weekend with her, taking her to the beach on Sat, then movies Sat night, then visiting my family on Sunday.
W was more pleasant than normal (other than rushing to pack her fresh clothes to go and spend the night at friends) and the 15 minutes we spent talking was very pleasant. I know I am a naughty boy, but I wore my tight fitting t-shirt when she got home (as I was going to take a 3 hour nap before work), and my W could not stop "oggling".
I wanted to let her see the new and improved me, not only in mind but in body. I have lost a stack of weight, and have got my body in better shape than when we met when I was 21 (and playing professional Rugby). I don't want to come across as sounding vain, but stuff it, my PMA levels went up, thats the main thing.
Anyway, this is my new plan of attack, with a renewed interest and energy. No more getting baited, no more questions, no more conflict, no more querying and no more thinking about what she may be doing with OM (I have tried but some days are hard).
Also, the dating thing is def a no go, until you are ready to well and truly call it a day. Take it from me, your emotions are not into starting something new, and it will only hurt someone else. Also, if things improve with your S, whilst your new R is going strong, the emotional turmoil would be even more unbearable than what we are experiencing now.
Anyway, that was my threepence worth........... AndyV
